When someone dies, confusion, if not shock, overtakes the people you left behind. That's why people leave Legal Wills. Legal Wills tell people who gets your property. Also important should be a Spiritual Will, to tell everyone what you want done with your body. If you are Jewish or Catholic, there are rites the deceased may want observed. Don't let your family guess, or worse argue. Leave instructions--a spiritual will.
Here's what my Spiritual Will will say, now. It may be revised.
I already have a plot and stone. Use my insurance money for my funeral. Since I am a Lay Dominican, I would like to wear black. My white scapular and Dominican cross is over my blouse. Obviously, this is open casket. I want my faith visible, as my last catechesis, to show others that faith is serious.
I want a traditional Catholic funeral Mass. My parish priest may celebrate. I will list what music I want and Readings. I also want certain people to be Lectors, not family. I want my family to pay attention to the Mass, not freak out because they have to speak in public. Family may bring up the Offerings. No eulogy, just a reception following the burial. Stories will be told there, at the reception.
I like a Mass celebrated for me, now and then, and a few prayers at my grave.
That's it. See you on the other side.
My scapular and cross look like this, to be place over black clothing.





