Heart and Soul
For the past few days, I've been absorbed in the book The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah. It was one of those times when you can't put the book done. I highly recommend it as a very enjoyable read.
Near the end, the character Isabelle tells her sister something that someone told me a long time ago. I've never forgotten it. Isabelle, broken and beaten, suffering and sick, tells her sister "They couldn't touch my heart. They couldn't change who I was inside. My body...they broke that in the first days, but not my heart..."
Where I heard this before was from a prison inmate. He was trying to tell me the very same thing. He said, "they've taken everything away from me, but not my soul. They can't take that."
Who you are, can't be taken away. Maybe identity cards and name changes look like you've changed, but you don't. Not if you don't want them to. It's up to you.